Grief and Loss

You wake – and the nightmare begins.

This can’t be happening. It’s all so sudden. What did I do to deserve this? What am I going to do without them?

This wasn’t supposed to happen. They were such a good person. Why them?

IT’S. NOT. FAIR.

And things are just getting started.

After the funeral – the visitors – the goodbyes – it’s only you.

You are left to deal with the aftermath, but you don’t even know how to deal with the death yourself.

First, you must carve out a new life for yourself – one in which your loved one is gone. It doesn’t seem possible to live in a world where your loved one doesn’t exist, and it sure as HELL isn’t fair!

You are probably asking yourself, “How do I go on?”

It’s all about you.

Grief and loss are universal experiences, yet every journey is unique. Every person grieves differently, and there isn’t a class in school to teach us how.

You might hear good-intentioned people say things like, “I know how it feels” or “The same thing happened to my friend, and they did (insert long list of ways to feel better here).”

But what you’re going through is not like the process of your friend’s mother-in-law’s sister. It’s your journey, and the pain is real. Indescribably deep, it’s torn a GIANT hole – a giant emptiness – inside, and you wonder if you’ll ever be able to fill it again.

Everything inside you aches.

You don’t want – and maybe even can’t – get out of bed in the morning because, well, what’s the point of being here if your loved one isn’t?

The anger fills you up, and you’re ready to snap at the first person who says something. Maybe you’re angry at yourself because “you could have done something different to change the outcome.”

Or maybe you are angry at something bigger than you because you don’t have the answers to the “WHY?”

And no one “gets it.”

You need to know that you’re not alone – and what you’re experiencing is “normal” in the grief process.

While we often have well-meaning people in our lives, they don’t always know the best things to say when we are grieving.

Many people find the world at large keeps turning while their own is in shambles. The stages of grief, while helpful, don’t always work.

But you don’t have to do it alone.

The counseling process provides you with a place to put everything out there – a space where you can unleash and process your anger and cry cathartically for relief.

You get to talk openly about the death without judgment or the responsibility of having to take care of anyone else’s emotions.

Tell me about your loved one. I want to hear everything that made them who they were because they impacted you and this world.

And you don’t have to fear – because I’m here.

Grief is a normal involuntary reaction to a loss; you have no control over it.

What you are going through is unfair, heartbreaking, and maybe even a little scary. You need to do it in a safe space.

There is no reason to feel alone in your grief.

Let’s sit in and move through it together. Reach out today! (970) 660-8013